
A common conversation between my friends and I are how much getting a babysitter on a weekly basis or being willing to hire one for a nice night out with your husband and friends can truly help a marriage. At times there are quite a few moms, whether it be their first child or not, have trouble leaving their children and it comes at the cost of their relationship with their husband. I strongly believe it is important to find someone to help out with your kids once in awhile – not only to give moms a break, but to allow time for wives and their husbands to spend a little quality time together. A weekly date night is really healthy – realistic? Maybe not, but what if it was two times a month? That might be a little more realistic. A good babysitter can save your marriage by making it simple for you and your spouse to leave the house.
According to a study by the National Marriage Project, couples who schedule weekly date nights or time alone each week were 3.5 times more likely to report being “very happy” in their marriage than couples who did not. Having a safe, reliable sitter readily available makes it easier for parents to schedule that time together.
Parents don’t want to worry that the sitter is texting or talking on their phone and plopping the kids in front of the TV. It is important that babysitters need to be engaged with the kids. When this happens, parents, like you, can have fun together instead of feeling guilty while you are out.
Here are some tips to helping you find a good sitter:
- Be upfront about your expectations. Discuss her/his rate of pay, your rules about screen time, your expectations about Internet usage and texting and her behavior with your children. It might be uncomfortable, but these discussions will give you a better sense of how successful your night will be.
- Great references: Great sitters are hard to come by and the good ones typically have regular jobs and good references. Take time to thoroughly check them though.
- Responsible and reliable: They show up on time, well prepared and ready to watch your kids. They are polite and respectful.
- Solid credentials: They are certified and can show you with a current first aid card and CPR training. Check their knowledge of how to handle health issues or common injuries such as cuts and scrapes and bleeding.
- A bag full of tricks: Sitters should be prepared with fun, age appropriate activities for kids including games and crafts. They spend time interacting with the kids while enjoying their bag of goodies.
- They leave the home looking better than when you left it: A top sitter keeps the place tidy and pitches in to help the kids do the same. Good communication is a key here so be sure to set clear expectations for the sitter.
- Safety comes first: Good sitters don’t open the doors to strangers, won’t expose kids to Internet dangers. They keep their cell phone off and only use it in case of emergencies or to communicate with the parents.
- They ask good questions: Experienced babysitters will ask about the rules, discipline and find out in advance what is acceptable and unacceptable behavior for the kids.
- They know knowledge is power: A good sitter will request an instruction sheet with contact information and emergency details.
- They ask about food allergies and what the children like and don’t like to eat.
- Make sure they like the kids and the kids like them and can’t wait to see them again.
- Lastly, relax. Once you are out of the house, resist the urge to call and check on the babysitter.
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